Olivia P
New Member
Hi,
I was wondering if any experienced refs could help me out a bit. I absolutely love reffing, but as someone whose done it for only a year, I sometimes struggle with choosing my body language, tone of voice, etc. when speaking to players off the ball. Often when speaking to a player due to minor dissent for example, I believe my tone can sometimes be similar to 'scolding' which I don't intend, it just comes off that way due to natural instinct of having to defend myself. Alongside that, players sometimes don't take me as seriously because I'm female and has connotations of being bossy (I'm not saying I've experienced sexism, but its not exactly cool for 14 year old to be told off by a girl, so I imagine they're going to shrug it off in front of their teammates) I was wondering if anyone had any tips or tricks to help my overall communication as I believe its a part of my game I need to improve but haven't yet got the confidence of an adult who has been reffing for 5, 10, 15+ years. Thanks
I was wondering if any experienced refs could help me out a bit. I absolutely love reffing, but as someone whose done it for only a year, I sometimes struggle with choosing my body language, tone of voice, etc. when speaking to players off the ball. Often when speaking to a player due to minor dissent for example, I believe my tone can sometimes be similar to 'scolding' which I don't intend, it just comes off that way due to natural instinct of having to defend myself. Alongside that, players sometimes don't take me as seriously because I'm female and has connotations of being bossy (I'm not saying I've experienced sexism, but its not exactly cool for 14 year old to be told off by a girl, so I imagine they're going to shrug it off in front of their teammates) I was wondering if anyone had any tips or tricks to help my overall communication as I believe its a part of my game I need to improve but haven't yet got the confidence of an adult who has been reffing for 5, 10, 15+ years. Thanks