So I was refereeing my first ever charity match a few weeks ago (no assistants), and two things happened that have stuck in my mind since then; was whites v blues.
Firstly, I penalised a white player for offside. Immediately after I blow the whistle, he picks the ball up, boots it half way across the pitch and shouts at me from 20 yards away "You're a ****ing joke ref I was never offside for **** sake", amongst other expletives. Despite it being a charity game, I show him the caution for dissent. As he sees the yellow coming out my pocket he then shouts at me "I don't give a **** what you do you're an absolute ****ing joke". I then show him a second yellow for his additional comments and produce the red.
That's just when the fun begins however. A few minutes later, the whites score. Just as I'm about to restart the game, the blue team bring it to my attention that the player who has just scored was the one that I sent off. His team-mates had apparently told him that I had only sent him off for a couple of minutes and that he could come back on, although I've no way of knowing if they actually told him that, and that certainly wasn't what I did. I again asked him to leave the pitch and told him that he was not to return again, despite the protests of both sets of player who continually told me "It's just a charity match ref give him a few minutes then let him come back on". Play restarted with kick off following the goal.
So, should I have been more lenient in the first instance as it was only a charity match, and secondly should I have allowed the goal to stood despite the sent off player having come on and scored it? I have a feeling that as play had not restarted I shouldn't have.
Firstly, I penalised a white player for offside. Immediately after I blow the whistle, he picks the ball up, boots it half way across the pitch and shouts at me from 20 yards away "You're a ****ing joke ref I was never offside for **** sake", amongst other expletives. Despite it being a charity game, I show him the caution for dissent. As he sees the yellow coming out my pocket he then shouts at me "I don't give a **** what you do you're an absolute ****ing joke". I then show him a second yellow for his additional comments and produce the red.
That's just when the fun begins however. A few minutes later, the whites score. Just as I'm about to restart the game, the blue team bring it to my attention that the player who has just scored was the one that I sent off. His team-mates had apparently told him that I had only sent him off for a couple of minutes and that he could come back on, although I've no way of knowing if they actually told him that, and that certainly wasn't what I did. I again asked him to leave the pitch and told him that he was not to return again, despite the protests of both sets of player who continually told me "It's just a charity match ref give him a few minutes then let him come back on". Play restarted with kick off following the goal.
So, should I have been more lenient in the first instance as it was only a charity match, and secondly should I have allowed the goal to stood despite the sent off player having come on and scored it? I have a feeling that as play had not restarted I shouldn't have.
