Hi, I'm after a little advice on how to stamp some authority when I'm reffing a game. I'm a 25 yr old level 7 referee and currently in my first full season in adult football. I'm very quiet, mild mannered & if I were any more laid back I'd be horizontal!
However, I've started to notice its extremely tough to gain respect and authority from the players. Being younger I feel that I look inexperienced and I think players try to push their luck with me more than they would if I were a 45 yr old! It's not always dissent but alot of sly remarks here and there.
I'm asking for advice on how can I sell my decisions more? Is there any certain phrases that's good to use vocally during gameplay etc.. I do try to let the game flow and use alot of common sense. I've read the forums on here and alot of people use their pre-match discussion with the captains to assert their authority but how many captains actually relay that message to their players!? Here is my normal pre-match message:
"Good afternoon. right, I'll tell you the same thing I tell every captain, the way I'll ref this game is decided by you and your players; if it's clean, tidy and well mannered then I'll keep it flowing however, if its nitty gritty, dirty and tempers flare then I'll slow it down and pull up play for every little infringement. I won't tell you how to play football, so I appreciate not being told how to referee. As captains I need to be hearing you controlling your players if they get on my back, you know your players more than I do, get to them before I do. Thank and enjoy the game."
Is this too much, too little?
Thanks.
However, I've started to notice its extremely tough to gain respect and authority from the players. Being younger I feel that I look inexperienced and I think players try to push their luck with me more than they would if I were a 45 yr old! It's not always dissent but alot of sly remarks here and there.
I'm asking for advice on how can I sell my decisions more? Is there any certain phrases that's good to use vocally during gameplay etc.. I do try to let the game flow and use alot of common sense. I've read the forums on here and alot of people use their pre-match discussion with the captains to assert their authority but how many captains actually relay that message to their players!? Here is my normal pre-match message:
"Good afternoon. right, I'll tell you the same thing I tell every captain, the way I'll ref this game is decided by you and your players; if it's clean, tidy and well mannered then I'll keep it flowing however, if its nitty gritty, dirty and tempers flare then I'll slow it down and pull up play for every little infringement. I won't tell you how to play football, so I appreciate not being told how to referee. As captains I need to be hearing you controlling your players if they get on my back, you know your players more than I do, get to them before I do. Thank and enjoy the game."
Is this too much, too little?
Thanks.
