Justylove
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Saw this posted and the follow-up video. Big drop off in numbers of referees in the game and I'm sure it's not just limited to North Riding.
Couple be tactical... Won't work I expect..I know of one L4 referee that has not taken the fitness test this year and shows little inclination to do so, even though his position in the merit table would likely see him promoted to 3 in the upcoming mid-season changes.
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I must confess, I am seriously considering packing it in.
I not suffered any major abuse, and certainly never felt physically threatened, but whether it’s me or not, or whether it’s got worse, I don‘t know but I’m just fed up of the niggling negativity towards me. I’m fed up of the low level whinging and moaning and I just wonder why I bother giving up my time, when I could go for a 10k run instead. I’m just not really enjoying it anymore.
For example, the other week I turned up to do a game, on a pitch I’ve ref-Ed at many times before. It’s not a brilliant pitch, it’s a school/college in the week, and is rented out to clubs on the weekend. It’s not Wembley, but it’s playable. Before the game the away team started to complain that the goals weren’t quite square on to each other. In the past, teams may have joked about this, but there was an edge to the way these players were making these comments, also hinting that it was my fault/problem - they clearly wanted to apportion blame/get their excuses in before we even kicked off. I told them there wasn’t a lot we could do about it - we either accept it, or go home now. “Just saying, ref”. But why even bother just saying. We did kick off and the moaning continued.
This is but one example.
So I do, and did, ask myself why I bother. I made the decision to withdraw myself from my Sunday league (the above was from that league) the ref sec was sorry to see me go, and said the teams would all be disappointed as he only heard good things about me.
Then, on Thursday , I got a text from a skipper/manager from one of the teams asking if I had a game on Sunday as his fixture had no appointed ref - like approx half the games this weekend. As he’s a nice bloke, and his team are generally a good bunch, I’ve agreed to do his game this weekend. We’ll see how it goes. (I also had a look on full time- “my” Saturday league only has about half its games covered this week too.)
Not sure if it’s me or not, but I can’t seem to tune out the 10% who whinge and moan, and that’s a shame for the 90% who do (I think) appreciate what I do. But if Im to fully return to the fold, I need that 90% to be drowning out the 10%.
Yeah that’s not unusual, I know a few refs that do that. My social media is full of “need a ref this weekend” posts from about Thursday onwards and I’m on a mailing list for the youth leagues with a list of uncovered games. The local Saturday appointments secretary sent a mail last night saying he’s got games needing covered so please contact him if you become free.I think these sentiments are echoed around the grass roots leagues. Many refs have had alot of weekends doing other things during the pandemic and realised there's other things they can be doing.
My brother is a level 7 referee in the local Cheshire Leagues with no ambition to climb the ladder. He does it to stay fit and make a bit of money. He picks and chooses who he refs and on which leagues on a Sunday. He just waits for the inevitable texts from teams without a ref and decides if he's doing it or not. If he's had teams constantly whinging at him (or worse) before he just doesn't do it. Many will be doing the same.
I see alot of officials just doing lines on the step 5/6 leagues around here. More money than grass roots middles and far less crap in a better environment.
Ref courses restarting will help stem the losses to an extent, but in reality ref numbers have fallen year on year for a while now I assume?
Culture change is required but that takes a generation. More money may help (certainly has had a huge effect on the cricket league umpire shortage I played on) but can clubs afford it?
It's really difficult
I must confess, I am seriously considering packing it in.
I not suffered any major abuse, and certainly never felt physically threatened, but whether it’s me or not, or whether it’s got worse, I don‘t know but I’m just fed up of the niggling negativity towards me. I’m fed up of the low level whinging and moaning and I just wonder why I bother giving up my time, when I could go for a 10k run instead. I’m just not really enjoying it anymore.
For example, the other week I turned up to do a game, on a pitch I’ve ref-Ed at many times before. It’s not a brilliant pitch, it’s a school/college in the week, and is rented out to clubs on the weekend. It’s not Wembley, but it’s playable. Before the game the away team started to complain that the goals weren’t quite square on to each other. In the past, teams may have joked about this, but there was an edge to the way these players were making these comments, also hinting that it was my fault/problem - they clearly wanted to apportion blame/get their excuses in before we even kicked off. I told them there wasn’t a lot we could do about it - we either accept it, or go home now. “Just saying, ref”. But why even bother just saying. We did kick off and the moaning continued.
This is but one example.
So I do, and did, ask myself why I bother. I made the decision to withdraw myself from my Sunday league (the above was from that league) the ref sec was sorry to see me go, and said the teams would all be disappointed as he only heard good things about me.
Then, on Thursday , I got a text from a skipper/manager from one of the teams asking if I had a game on Sunday as his fixture had no appointed ref - like approx half the games this weekend. As he’s a nice bloke, and his team are generally a good bunch, I’ve agreed to do his game this weekend. We’ll see how it goes. (I also had a look on full time- “my” Saturday league only has about half its games covered this week too.)
Not sure if it’s me or not, but I can’t seem to tune out the 10% who whinge and moan, and that’s a shame for the 90% who do (I think) appreciate what I do. But if Im to fully return to the fold, I need that 90% to be drowning out the 10%.
Didn’t refsupport or some such organise a strike a few years ago?Maybe a weekend of all grass roots referee dropping whistle and taking a stance #themendressedinblacklivesmatter(and women too)
2 teams if you read the comments too.According to Refsupport one team was touring around social media today trying to find an AR for their FA Vase tie!
Yep me too. I know of 2 Contrib games in my neck of the woods that had 5-4's on the line. In at least 1 of the cases this was definitely not a referee that is going to be promoted to 4 in the mid season changes.2 teams if you read the comments too.
I do find it hard to believe that the FA didn't have anyone, as FA Vase would take precedent they could take anyone off any game...
The trouble is that at that time it would be down the CFA to find somebody. But they close there offices at 5.30 on a Friday afternoon !!!!!2 teams if you read the comments too.
I do find it hard to believe that the FA didn't have anyone, as FA Vase would take precedent they could take anyone off any game...
One fact also posted is that 45% of the registered referees on North Riding are under 18.
So, most of them not ready for open age football regularly. I don't know how active they are, but unless they stay in grassroots football is in serious trouble.
The problems ex-players no longer taking up refereeing. Numerous reasons - coaching kids, vets football, but without the stream of experienced football, grassroot refereeing is going to continue bro be in trouble.