Well what a game this morning... 1st time doing and U14s which saw mid table vs Top of Premier (Away team) who have won all the previous 9 games. Everything seemed ok laughing and joking pre match with both teams. Pre match talks all done and game starts.
A good few mins in and gave my first FK no issues although was it too long? Then the next for a shirt pull again no issues. Away team scored through some great football. Followed by another goal. So felt pretty comfortable and confident. Then a few things seem to happen that left me feeling downbeat at the game today.
Home team lino gave an offside, which I went along with, I wasn't sure who he was giving off but he was better placed than me so gave it. Well then starts the abuse from the away manager l. How on earth can you give that he was back there!
Apparently I gave a GK when the home team played it out, Tbh I took my off it split second and didn't see. So went with GK. lino then shouting out.
Then a couple of challenges start to fly in, which I pull up on the ones I believe we're without doubt. The home Keeper tackled for the ball in the box, with his feet and apparently fouled their striker. He didn't go down he played on so did I. a few seconds later I give a free kick against the away team to a foul on the defender. Well manager again balling out.
By this point my head was starting to go a little. I think I gave a foul to the Home team, pointed the away teams way and ended up going with it, why? God knows.
Away team arguing with all decisions. Had a word with captain and told him to have a word with his players. I know their frustrated but I'm giving what I believe I see.
Next incident with the Away manager comes when two players came together Away striker barges into the back of the Home player and I believe that Home player caught him on the Ankle. to which he went off in tears. A Barrage of abuse from the Manager I best Get this game under control or someone will be hurt!
Next break in play a GK I walked over to him for a chat. Oh what you got to say now? I told him he need to calm down and let me officiate what I see. i get "Your a joke, no control of game" " to get on with it" Told him I will give the benefit of the doubt and any more I will send him away! "Go on then" was the response.
So game carries on Away team player flys into a sliding challenge and didn't make contact to I believe he was intent on something, so told him I had my eye on him as it was the 2nd time.
Anyways finally get to the last 3 mins and I give a decisions the Home team. Away player " your having a laugh Ref, how can you give that and not when he's off crying earlier?" calls him over for a chat. We have 3 mins don't do anything silly and talk yourself into the book! he keeps Chelping and I get my book out. Name? Joe... (captain says no its not) So I ask him again, what's your name? then I get a completely different name. "I'm giving you a caution for disent, I gave you ample opportunity to listen and walk away, but you didn't listen" Again he starts moaning. Their lino shouts over, keep it quiet, it won't change anything! Captains telling him to Shut up or it will be a Red!
Game finished 6-0 to away team and Lino gives me my flag and greets me with, "that was a Joke Ref!"
So a few questions for you all, has anyone had worse?
Did I do right listening to the lino for the offside who says he was offside, but the manager saying inactive.
What do you do if two player commit an offence, but one comes off worse?
Should the manager have walked and more players cautioned?
Is there any videos to swot up on?
I spoke to u14 Home managerial text after game and ask if they're like that. Yep! They play rough, and don't like it back and always gobby!
I have a game tomorrow for the u13s but I've been running on a heavily strapped injured ankle for a few weeks with reffereeing and coaching and not sure if really want to do that game tomorrow.
Feed back welcome please
A good few mins in and gave my first FK no issues although was it too long? Then the next for a shirt pull again no issues. Away team scored through some great football. Followed by another goal. So felt pretty comfortable and confident. Then a few things seem to happen that left me feeling downbeat at the game today.
Home team lino gave an offside, which I went along with, I wasn't sure who he was giving off but he was better placed than me so gave it. Well then starts the abuse from the away manager l. How on earth can you give that he was back there!
Apparently I gave a GK when the home team played it out, Tbh I took my off it split second and didn't see. So went with GK. lino then shouting out.
Then a couple of challenges start to fly in, which I pull up on the ones I believe we're without doubt. The home Keeper tackled for the ball in the box, with his feet and apparently fouled their striker. He didn't go down he played on so did I. a few seconds later I give a free kick against the away team to a foul on the defender. Well manager again balling out.
By this point my head was starting to go a little. I think I gave a foul to the Home team, pointed the away teams way and ended up going with it, why? God knows.
Away team arguing with all decisions. Had a word with captain and told him to have a word with his players. I know their frustrated but I'm giving what I believe I see.
Next incident with the Away manager comes when two players came together Away striker barges into the back of the Home player and I believe that Home player caught him on the Ankle. to which he went off in tears. A Barrage of abuse from the Manager I best Get this game under control or someone will be hurt!
Next break in play a GK I walked over to him for a chat. Oh what you got to say now? I told him he need to calm down and let me officiate what I see. i get "Your a joke, no control of game" " to get on with it" Told him I will give the benefit of the doubt and any more I will send him away! "Go on then" was the response.
So game carries on Away team player flys into a sliding challenge and didn't make contact to I believe he was intent on something, so told him I had my eye on him as it was the 2nd time.
Anyways finally get to the last 3 mins and I give a decisions the Home team. Away player " your having a laugh Ref, how can you give that and not when he's off crying earlier?" calls him over for a chat. We have 3 mins don't do anything silly and talk yourself into the book! he keeps Chelping and I get my book out. Name? Joe... (captain says no its not) So I ask him again, what's your name? then I get a completely different name. "I'm giving you a caution for disent, I gave you ample opportunity to listen and walk away, but you didn't listen" Again he starts moaning. Their lino shouts over, keep it quiet, it won't change anything! Captains telling him to Shut up or it will be a Red!
Game finished 6-0 to away team and Lino gives me my flag and greets me with, "that was a Joke Ref!"
So a few questions for you all, has anyone had worse?
Did I do right listening to the lino for the offside who says he was offside, but the manager saying inactive.
What do you do if two player commit an offence, but one comes off worse?
Should the manager have walked and more players cautioned?
Is there any videos to swot up on?
I spoke to u14 Home managerial text after game and ask if they're like that. Yep! They play rough, and don't like it back and always gobby!
I have a game tomorrow for the u13s but I've been running on a heavily strapped injured ankle for a few weeks with reffereeing and coaching and not sure if really want to do that game tomorrow.
Feed back welcome please
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