Monotone Whistle
Well-Known Member
Had a decent game on Saturday, competitive and I managed it well. But on occasion I find myself on the wrong end of a few words which I try and manage in my own way. Normally it goes ok, players seem to respond and accept if they bark at me, I bark back.
One particular player must have sworn in my direction 7 or 8 times in the game. Nothing loud or personal, just the usual f'ing about a decision, telling me I got loads wrong, etc. My default response, if at low level, is to manage through the odd word here and there, but I do often find myself calling the player over and resorting to my default phrase in the end, similar to "shut up mate, this is getting boring" or "you've been mouthing off all game, keep your mouth shut or I'll deal with it another way".
On Sat, I responded that way to this player, right in front of the bench. Nothing load or aggressive, just with a laconic wit and a hint of sarcasm The player and the manager went nuts, telling me I couldn't speak to the player like that,. etc. and I had no respect. A threat of a report to The FA was mentioned.
I just semi-laughed, looked a little incredulous and suggested that from now on rather than replying to being sworn at and belittled with a "shut up" response, I would instead allow Mr Yellow Card to do the talking, if he preferred. Of course, this was not acceptable and supposedly I should speak to players better.
Now I know in this case I should have just cautioned the player after a few comments earlier in the game, but we are asked to manage dissent and it was so low level that I just laughed it off until it just got to be too frequent. Normally I can manage it and players respond to my approach, but this guy was just a moron.
Any default phrases I should use? Anyone think telling a player to shut up is a bad thing (when done quietly)?
One particular player must have sworn in my direction 7 or 8 times in the game. Nothing loud or personal, just the usual f'ing about a decision, telling me I got loads wrong, etc. My default response, if at low level, is to manage through the odd word here and there, but I do often find myself calling the player over and resorting to my default phrase in the end, similar to "shut up mate, this is getting boring" or "you've been mouthing off all game, keep your mouth shut or I'll deal with it another way".
On Sat, I responded that way to this player, right in front of the bench. Nothing load or aggressive, just with a laconic wit and a hint of sarcasm The player and the manager went nuts, telling me I couldn't speak to the player like that,. etc. and I had no respect. A threat of a report to The FA was mentioned.
I just semi-laughed, looked a little incredulous and suggested that from now on rather than replying to being sworn at and belittled with a "shut up" response, I would instead allow Mr Yellow Card to do the talking, if he preferred. Of course, this was not acceptable and supposedly I should speak to players better.
Now I know in this case I should have just cautioned the player after a few comments earlier in the game, but we are asked to manage dissent and it was so low level that I just laughed it off until it just got to be too frequent. Normally I can manage it and players respond to my approach, but this guy was just a moron.
Any default phrases I should use? Anyone think telling a player to shut up is a bad thing (when done quietly)?