Hi all,
I am an U18 Ref and have passed my course about 3 months ago but have reffed for almost 2 years now. I had a situation yesterday where I had a horrendous team and almost abandoned the game. I had to end up sending a report in about this as it was absolutely atrocious, considering it was an U12 Girls Game. I will write out the Report below but if anyone knows a way that I could have handled this better or how to deal with teams such as these it would be greatly appreciated.
Report
The Game Started off as a usual game with no real problems in the first half, apart from the usual competitive parents that were on the side-line. The score at half time ended up being 3-0 to the home team after scoring 3 goals in the 5 minutes before half time. The second half began fine until there was a collision at around the 40th minute. Neither of the girls were at fault for this as it was a small collision chasing after the ball. However, because of this one of the away players got in an argument with a home player stating that they purposefully kicking the player, which was untrue as I had a clear view of this. The away Player Proceeded to call her a ‘Stupid B*tch’, right in front of me, to which I asked the coach politely to take the player off until she had calmed down. The coach refused at this and proceeded to laugh in my face and told me that it wasn’t that bad and that home players had been calling his team thing worse which I hadn’t heard at all throughout the game. Reflecting on this I should have stopped the game until he had taken the player off but, in the end, I let it slip. Before I restarted play, I had a word with the home coach saying that I felt unsafe in the situation and that if it continued that I would abandon the game. He then went and spoke to the opposition coach about this, and it seemed to calm the coach down a bit. However, the abuse that I got from the away parents from the rest of the game about every decision that I made and shouting things at me the rest of the match, however I cannot exactly remember what they said as I was mainly focussing on the game at the time, but after the game I was told by a few people that they were swearing at me. The game ended with a 5-0 score to the home team. After the game I remained by the home coaches as I felt unsafe going over to where the spectators were. I was told by many of the home players after the game about their players calling them names and pushing them around and was even told that a parent had told their child to beat them up, none of which I saw or heard again and I’m sure the home team also said things to the opposition team as well. Shortly after I was approached by two spectators who were with the away team that wanted to access to player information and for me to have a word with a home player about something that they had said to them. The coach handled it and told them that they weren’t allowed to have that information and that he would have a word with his players, but they also blamed me of not doing my job properly. As a young referee, I felt unsafe in the environment. I was also wearing my purple referee shirt which shows that I am under 18 so they have no excuse for not knowing that I was a young referee.
Thank you.
I am an U18 Ref and have passed my course about 3 months ago but have reffed for almost 2 years now. I had a situation yesterday where I had a horrendous team and almost abandoned the game. I had to end up sending a report in about this as it was absolutely atrocious, considering it was an U12 Girls Game. I will write out the Report below but if anyone knows a way that I could have handled this better or how to deal with teams such as these it would be greatly appreciated.
Report
The Game Started off as a usual game with no real problems in the first half, apart from the usual competitive parents that were on the side-line. The score at half time ended up being 3-0 to the home team after scoring 3 goals in the 5 minutes before half time. The second half began fine until there was a collision at around the 40th minute. Neither of the girls were at fault for this as it was a small collision chasing after the ball. However, because of this one of the away players got in an argument with a home player stating that they purposefully kicking the player, which was untrue as I had a clear view of this. The away Player Proceeded to call her a ‘Stupid B*tch’, right in front of me, to which I asked the coach politely to take the player off until she had calmed down. The coach refused at this and proceeded to laugh in my face and told me that it wasn’t that bad and that home players had been calling his team thing worse which I hadn’t heard at all throughout the game. Reflecting on this I should have stopped the game until he had taken the player off but, in the end, I let it slip. Before I restarted play, I had a word with the home coach saying that I felt unsafe in the situation and that if it continued that I would abandon the game. He then went and spoke to the opposition coach about this, and it seemed to calm the coach down a bit. However, the abuse that I got from the away parents from the rest of the game about every decision that I made and shouting things at me the rest of the match, however I cannot exactly remember what they said as I was mainly focussing on the game at the time, but after the game I was told by a few people that they were swearing at me. The game ended with a 5-0 score to the home team. After the game I remained by the home coaches as I felt unsafe going over to where the spectators were. I was told by many of the home players after the game about their players calling them names and pushing them around and was even told that a parent had told their child to beat them up, none of which I saw or heard again and I’m sure the home team also said things to the opposition team as well. Shortly after I was approached by two spectators who were with the away team that wanted to access to player information and for me to have a word with a home player about something that they had said to them. The coach handled it and told them that they weren’t allowed to have that information and that he would have a word with his players, but they also blamed me of not doing my job properly. As a young referee, I felt unsafe in the environment. I was also wearing my purple referee shirt which shows that I am under 18 so they have no excuse for not knowing that I was a young referee.
Thank you.
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